Dear John

Dear John is usually a letter is written to a husband or a lover to inform him that a relationship is over, usually because the author has found another lover.

Dear John Letters are often written out of an inability or unwillingness to inform the man in person about the desire to break off certain relationship. In a reverse situation, in which someone writes to his  wife of lover to break off the relationship, is often referred to as a “Dear Jane letter.”

The origin of this phrase is not exactly known, but it’s commonly believed to be started during the World War II by the Americans. You see, back then, there’s large amount of male soldiers who were stationed oversea during the war, and more often than not, it’s always for a long period of time. Not many women could wait for their husband or lover back then. Most decided to move on with their life with another man instead of just waiting for their men to come back from war.

There are a number of theories on why the name John is used rather than any other. John was a common name in America at the time the term was started. John is also the name used in many other terms that refer to an anonymous man or men, such as ‘John Doe’ or ‘John Smith’.

The phrase That’s all she wrote is believed to have originated from Dear John letters. These letters would contain either the words ‘Dear John’ and abruptly terminate, or only contain the words ‘Dear John, Goodbye.’ The phrase ‘That’s all she wrote’ is used to indicate the end of story or an abrupt end of story, especially when the reader has a desire to know more, but the writer does not want to fulfill that desire.

Don’t be alarmed. I am not here today to write a separation note to my husband. I am not the kind who will walk away from a relationship with just leaving the man a note. If I were to break off a relationship and whatnot, I’ll be sure to resolve the issue face to face. And maybe a kick in the crotch or something. I won’t be satisfied with just a letter, a call or even sms.

I’m not the kind of blogger who writes about movies and entertainment really often. I only do so when I think a book or a movie is really worth reviewing, and so here goes nothing. I’d like to talk about a recently released movie known as ‘ Dear John’, an adaptation from my favourite author, Nicholas Sparks. Yup, it’s from the same feller who wrote The Notebook, Message in the Bottle, A Walk to Remember, The Lucky One, The Last Song and many more fantastic, tear-jerking and heart moving love stories.

Like his other famous bestselling works, Dear John is adapted into a movie of the same name.


Dear John is about an angry rebel, John dropped out of school and enlisted in the Army, not knowing what else to do with his life, until he meets the girl of his dreams, Savannah during his summer vacation.

Their mutual attraction quickly grows into the kind of love that leaves Savannah waiting for John to finish his tour of duty, and John wanting to settle down with the woman who has captured his heart. But 9/11 changes everything. John feels it is his duty to re-enlist. And sadly, the long separation finds Savannah falling in love with someone else.

“Dear John,” the letter read…and with those two words, a heart was broken and two lives were changed forever. Returning home, John must come to grips with the fact that Savannah, now married, is still his true love and he face the hardest decision of his life.

Dear John is a good read. For those who wants to read Dear John but couldn’t find it, I have the ebook version of it, and kindly email me at [email protected] to request for it. It would be a pleasure for me to share it with you.

For those who are interested in the movie version of it, however, can watch it  HERE.

Below, is the trailer for Dear John.

On the lighter note…want to break up but don’t know how? Write a Dear John letter. Go HERE and check it out.

Cleffairy: Anyone a believer of a long distance relationship? I am not quite sure I am.

21 comments

    • Cleffairy says:

      I’ve watch it online. It’s an ok movie, though not really something I’d really watch. Tearjerker stuff. LOL…and like many movies adapted from books, they’re just mediocre. I prefer the books, as usual.

  1. manglish says:

    i believe in long distance relationship if u will close one eye on infidelity hahhahha i will go find the book 1st if i cant find then i come find u for the e-version har hahah

    • Cleffairy says:

      🙁 I’m not the kind who will close one eye on it. What’s more, I’m very manja kind, must have someone to kiss and hug on daily basis.

  2. claire says:

    phew.. for a moment, tot u were going to write one Dear John letter.. i havent read this book yet.. looks good on the front cover.. too bad office blocked the trailer..

    • Cleffairy says:

      I’m more ‘into your face’ kinda girl. Haiyorr… I wouldn’t write a Dear John letter…one man oredi very kecoh, wanna find another one? I must be out of my mind! This book is ok… though in my opinion, quite mediocre for Nicholas Sparks standard.

  3. ericlee says:

    ugh…these type of romance novels are not my cup of tea..only read mystery novels like da vinci code…I tried reading a romance novel for my English Literature in Form 6, Jane Erye by Charlotte Bronte, I literally fell asleep after 2 pages each time without fail except for once when I couldn’t sleep and hope it will make me fell asleep but it didn’t…talk about reliability…In the end never finish it and had to depend on the synopsis and movie..weird when i don’t have any problems reading Wide Sargasso Sea which is related to that novel

    ohh…I hate Harry Porter too… XD now reading Percy Jackson’s series

    • Cleffairy says:

      Ahhh… Dan Brown Books… they’re good. Very good. I read em too. Ebook version, though, cuz too pokai to buy the paperback version. I must say, The Lost Symbols disappoint me though. It’s somewhat mediocre and a repetition, and when I read it, a sense of deja vu wash over me. It feels as if I’m reading the Da Vinci code all over again. 🙁

      Hate harry Potter? Join the club. I couldn’t stomach that sort of ‘children literature’ that’s not really for children either. I have yet to read Percy Jackson, been busy with those sob story by Cecelia Ahern. LOL… She’s one author I’d love to hate!

      • ericlee says:

        yeah…i love how dan brown writes…but I’ve yet to read The Lost Symbol because was waiting for a cheaper soft cover version to come out…I can’t read e-books because it couldn’t satisfy me….I would just literally stop after several pages if i read ebooks…i prefer having an old fashion book in my hands….the only long stuff i read online is blogs…lol

        percy jackson is not that good in my opinion…i just read because i have a deep interest in mythology stuffs like that…lol

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