Do you make them help out with house work? Who, you ask me? Well, the kids, of course. Do you make them help you with your house chores? Well, I do. I’m not exactly’ loving mother of the year’ material like most doting mothers out there, but I can definitely win the Evil Stepmother award if someone were to nominate me for it.
Yups… I do make my boy help out with housework like Cinderella, whether he likes it or not. And since now it’s school holiday, I made it a point to make him sweep the floor and picks up rubbish around the house almost everyday. If I spotted any dirt that bothers me, I’ll just yell for him to clean it up for me instead of cleaning it up myself.
Just last week, I enjoyed reading one of my favourite comic while my son cleans up the whole livingroom. I was practically shaking my legs while listening to music while he was buzzing around with the broomstick and throwing rubbish into the wastebasket.
My son wasn’t so happy with the fact that I was enjoying myself while he had to sweep the floor and clean up the whole house, of course, but I made him see and understand that this is exactly how I felt when he messed up the house and I had to clean up after him.Â I gave him no reward for helping me clean the house either. I told him that I got no reward when I clean the house, and so he’ll share the same fate as me.
*GRINZ* I noticed that now that he knows that his mum won’t let him off for making a mess, he’s extra careful not to make any mess on purpose. And if he did, I noticed that lately, he’ll quickly sweep it away before I made him clean up the entire house again. ROFLOL.
So… what finally turned on my evil stepmother mode, you ask me? Well, I got fed up of not getting any help around the house. I got tired of picking up and cleaning up after people’s mess and since I don’t have a maid to help me out, I thought that my son will do just fine. And I was right. LOL.
You see, my husband don’t really help out with housework unless I coerce him into it, and as a wife, I don’t really approve this unhelpfulness. I don’t suppose this can be helped, though. The chauvinistic attitude must have come from his upbringing, just like my own father and my grandfather.
My father and grandfather comes from a typical Peranakan family while my husband comes from a typical Chinese family. Like both my father and grandfather, my husband were probably taught that it was women’s job to do all the washing and cleaning at home, and therefore he don’t think it’s part of his job description to help out with housework voluntarily.
I always thinks that it is ridiculous to let women pick up after men’s dirty stuff. We’re not cleaners, you know? The ‘cleaning is women’s job’ kind of thinking must be stopped at some generation somehow, and it must be stopped at this generation.
I can’t change my husband, my father or my grandfather, but I certainly can shape my son and make sure that he knows that it won’t be his future wife’s job to do all the bloody dirty things, and if he messed up, he’ll have to clean up!
I know, I know, quite a twisted logic, no? LOL…but hey, at least when he’s all grown up and have a wife of his own, at least she’ll say that I brought him up well and teaches their children the same value.
Cleffairy: Next on my list would be making him mop the floor, do the dishes and do all the dirty laundry at home while I supervise (in case it’s not clean enough).Â This will continue even when the school reopens. Don’t worry, it won’t interfere with his studies. I’ll make sure of that.*EVIL GRINZ* Who needs a maid when you can get your son to be useful around the house? And no, I don’t feel guilty for doing that. Why should I? He’s old enough and sons are supposed to be helpful like that. *smiles innocently*