*Takes a deeeee, deeeep breath!* I found this in The Star Malaysia, one of those advice column… here’s the problem.
I AM 58 years old and happily married with two children and two grandsons.
Recently, my husband told me that one of his clients had approached him with a proposal to go “datingâ€.
I am shocked that this Muslim woman in her late 30s, who is single and claims to be religious, has constantly been in touch with my husband and wants to date him.
My husband, being a staunch Christian, does not wish to commit adultery. He has been rejecting her advances, giving the excuse that he is very busy with work.
If she persists, should I tell her off in a nice way? If I do not do so, I’m afraid my husband and I might end up getting a divorce.
Should I report this woman to JAIS (the Selangor Islamic Affairs Department)?
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*clears throat*
First of all, if asked to give opinion on this matter, I’ll say… religion and ethnicity should not be an issue here, because SLUTS, BITCHES, CHEAP WHORES with brain placed in their pussies are everywhere. RELIGION and ETHNICITY and NATIONALITY does not differentiate them. Be it a Muslim, Christian, Buddhist, Hindhu. These kind, homewreckers only belong to one category, which is : BITCH! Religions and ethnicity got nothing to do with them being bitchy. No religion encourage one to wreck another’s marriage.
But then again, sorry ya, but I must say this. When a woman covers up, wear ‘tudung’ and stuff and claims she’s religious and yet she behaves like a bitch in heat, needing  bananas and cucumbers between her legs, please so DO NOT believe her claim, or be deceived by the way she carries herself. Some women are really miang and gatal! These kind of people masquerade around in their religion, shaming the rest of female population who are really pious. These kind of women are like smelly eggs in a basket. They stinks! I’ll give them this _I_ (my middle finger).
I’ll be ashamed of myself if I ever propose to date a married man, be it whether he is happily married or unhappily married. Bitches likes to have fun at the expanse of people’s marriage life, knowing full well that their actions will hurt another woman. Women should work together to make sure they never hurt one another, for we are vulnerable in many ways, not scheme to ruin another woman’s happiness. But then again, strike back if you must.
Now, this lady’s case, I kinda manage to cool down abit:
She’s in her fifties, and I can understand that she feels threatened and demoralized by the younger woman who is proposing a ‘date’. I’m not sure what kind of date she’s talking about though, whether it’s just going out together or a good few good screaming and screwing in bed. Still, it’s upsetting and provoking nevertheless. Especially she’s in a menopausal age. A woman at that age should be enjoying travelling the world with her husband, spending the rest of their life happily together and enjoy her role as a grandmother. The last thing a woman at that age need is another woman threatening her marriage by tempting and seducing her husband.
To me, if this lady wants to save marriage, she needs to:
1. Remembers what it’s like to be young and attractive again. Remember all the good times with her husband, and while holding onto that thoughts, go and have a makeover to make herself look younger. The younger she looks the better. This ought to boost her moral and confidence to herself, as the fight is far from over.
2. Confront her husband. If he’s not interested in the bitch and her proposal for a ‘date’, he ought to make it clear that HE IS NOT INTERESTED IN HER PUSSY OR HER TITTIES, BE IT NATURAAL OR NIP&TUCKED! Not just kindly try to hint her off by saying ” I’m sorry, I’m busy” or “Some other times”. Trust me on this. Bitches do not take hints. The more the husband say he’s busy and tries to avoid her advances, the more motivated she gets. It’s some sort of challenge to these whores. They have fun pursuing. These kind of woman will only stop pursuing and cease to exist when the hell freeze over.
3. Bitches, whores and sluts usually not only will ask people’s husbands to go dating face to face, but through phones and smses too. *SNARL* Never assume she ‘if she will persist’. Bitches like that will not be satisfied until they get what they’re after. And so… back to sms and phones. Rationally, I’ll suggest the lady to contact the telecommunication service provider for sms logs and lodge a police report for sexual harassment. And if she can afford to do it, get a lawyer to sue her for sexual harassment and disturbing peace. Telling her off in a nice way will not do. It might end up in the bitch provoking further. But there’s high chance that a court case can’t be established. So, play dirty. Try to get the bitch’s family address, preferably her parents. Then team up with your kids or kids in law, and give her family a visit, and give them dirt about their daughter. Leave the ‘teaching’ to her parents. Who cares if the bitch’s old folks will get a heart attack or not. Their daughter have been playing a homewrecker and caused heartaches. Payback time. Sometimes, the bitches are attached to someone, or in a relationship, but their hobby is patheticly disturbing people’s husband. So, if they have any boyfriends or husband, give out her dirt of infedelities to them too and see what happens. One ought to get even if marriage and future happiness is at stake. And since the slut is so ‘miang and ‘gatal’ for a good fuck or two, go to cyber cafes and post her number all over the net. Someone might be interested to take a poor lil doggie in. LMAO. Or maybe for the sake of charity, do some advertising for her:  “Attractive, fun loving woman seeking a man for a ‘date’, no strings attached. Relationships may be considred”. Or maybe the wife can spare some money to buy the bitch a male whore- a gigolo.
4. No. Never report to JAIS. They don’t give a damn about these kind of problems. Come to worst, Da Bitch might decide to set frame Da Hubby and then, ‘wham’… “Oi, apa korang buat nih? Ish, tak tau malu… buat kerja tak senonoh. Anda ditahan kerana disyaki berkhalwat”, then everthing is screwed. Syariah law will not help the non-muslim. Worst thing that could happen in the scenario is Da Hubby is forced to marry Da Bitch. When a non-muslim convert to a muslim, the non-muslim wife’s relationship to the husband is automatically nulled and void. He’s no longer your husband, and you may not lay any claim on him, including his dead body and his wealth.
5. Lastly, TRY ( I know it’s hard) to trust the husband and have a little faith in him.
Cleffairy: Hell hath no fury like a woman’s scorn.
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If I am not mistaken, when a moslem and a non moslem gets caught for khalwat, only the moslem gets punished.
I am wondering why on earth did the husband tell the wife about a date proposal? It could just be a social outing? The husband I tend to believe is at least 58 years old and more likely 60 and above as there is a general tendency here in Malaysia for the husband to be older than the wife. I dont know whether the husband can still do it as the wife didnt say anything about it but unless he is into viagra or cylis, he is a “rotten” banana and if the invitation was a sex invitation, surely the woman must know the probability that the man is still virile is really low.
We men dont normally tell everything to our partner specially things like this. If a woman ASKS us out why should we tell speacially if we didnt go out?
I think there is something wrong with the wife. She mentioned divorce, she mentioned JAIS. Is she so easily threatened? If she is happily married as she claimed than that means the husband has been a good hubby and therefore does have nothing to worry about!.
I’m sorry to say this, but my father has been quite ‘open’ with my mother. When he comes back from work, he’ll tell my mother how’s his day, including those “Honey there’s a clerk in my office asking me out…etc” and he would expect my mother to trust him and have faith with him.And so does my other half, he’s also been very open and honest with me, telling me who he met, and if he thinks a girl he knows is ‘flirting’ with him, and he too, would expect me to trust him not to be unfaithful. I am not sure if this is not a common practice between couples.
But one thing for sure, we women, though we love and trust our men, we can be quite a jealous creature and needs constant reassurance that we are loved by our men and he will not do anything to leave us or unfaithful to us, regardless of our age. Let’s just say it’s our weakness-insecurities. I’m 24 and my mother is 49, and we both can get very jealous all the same. If a wife don’t love her husband deeply, heck, why would she care if he husband is being kinky outside?
Ok, back to the posting, maybe there’s something wrong with the wife (hey, the lady is in her menopausal age…it’s almost the same as being pregnant, hormones speaks louder than anything else), but then again, maybe not. I can understand her hurt if the other woman constantly pursuing her husband. Imagine you’re sleeping with your wife or husband, then suddenly there’s an incoming text message, and you curiously read it. And much to your disdain, the message contains stuff like ” When are you going to go out with me,” or ” Dear/darling-insert term of endearment of your choice; I miss you, I love you…bla bla bla”. Homewreckers always do this. First hand experience. I’ve seen many wives gets engage in this kind of conversation every now and then.
Now, when this happens, whether the husband did anything wrong or not, the wife definitely will be pissed. For me, I won’t be asking for divorce and stuff if I already have grandkids, but I would at least cry out of anger.
PS: I do believe men can still do it even in their fifties. I believe that ‘Men age like wine, while women age like cheese’
Fifties, YES
Sixtees, MAYBE (YES with Viagra/Cialis)
I know a very small minority of us men are “too open”. But the majority of us dont tell every things/every single detail especially when the partner isnt open minded, jealous type, lack of confidence, insecure etcetc. Why make life miserable for the partner (and sometimes oneself) when it is nothing or nothing happens?. If a woman invites me out for a date, and I said no thank you, why on earth would I tell my partner? If a girl flirt with me, why would I want to tell my partner when i know they are just innocent flirtations and nothing happens. Whats the point of informing my partner? To tell her that I am attractive to some creatures?
A wise old man told me once, NEVER MENTION ABOUT ANOTHER WOMAN TO YOUR PARTNER.
The man must be very wise den… we women can get very… JEALOUS.
Since in the sixties men are … as you put it, ‘rotten banana’, now that got me thinking… why the hell some young girls have interest in marrying some guy who can almost be their grandfather… =.=!! Experienced but rotten, since they needs medication to make the banana ‘fresh’…man! I cannot imagine…
Well, I am not a woman but what I know of women they are weird. Even amongst women, each woman is different. One cant really fugure out whats going on in a woman`s head.
Young women go after old men purely for the material things or the attention that they get from the old men or by being around old men or the wisdom that old men has which some women are very attracted to and is fascinated with (this is one strong pull factor). They dont really aim for the sex thing but they dont mind doing it if they can get the above.
Well, the viagra makes the banana fresh for a while to make it eadible. It is acceptable that being the case. HAHA
I have never bother to check your previous posting to know your status. But from your responce here, you are volunteering the fact to me that you are already attached!
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hi… :). haha.. yeah I read that article too and was like.. WTF… but these closet auntie columns could be just letters produced by the writers themselves to comment on at times so.. the stories gotta be “eye catching”.
Eh, yea, you’re right…maybe the so ‘called’ letters and ’emails’ are written by the columnist themselves. LMAO
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