How many times have we heard parents advising their young children not to talk to strangers for the fear of the strangers having bad intentions towards their children? I bet this “Don’t talk to strangers” advice by parents have been heard by most countless times.
As a child, I used to hear my parents drill this particular advice into my thick skull almost every day before I go to kindergarten or to school. I used to roll my eyes when they told me the same thing over and over again, as I thought it’s silly of them to constantly remind me of what I knew over and over again but thinking back, I couldn’t blame them for nagging, because no parents would want their children to get kidnapped, rape or even murdered as a result of their friendliness towards strangers.
As time goes by and I grew up, my parents stopped giving this piece of advice that I used to consider as a nuisance and absolutely unnecessary. As children grew up, most parents, like my own parents, stopped giving this piece of advice and leave the judgment on whether their children would like to talk or make acquaintance with people that they do not know to themselves.
As adults, we often have to socialize and make acquaintance with strangers. Be it our clients that we never met before, newly introduced business partners or investors or even people whom we met on the street. As adult who are capable of making decision that benefits us as well as the ability to defend ourselves just because we’re ‘older’, ‘wiser’ and ‘stronger’, we tend to forget that not all strangers are nice and have no bad intention towards us. Some strangers are pure bastards and fuckers.
We’re less aware of the dangers that might befall us in comparison to children who would eyed strangers from head to toe first before they consider if it’s really necessary to talk to a certain strangers who passed by to ask them simple questions.
After reading some of the comments posted by one of my commenter who called himself ‘A Man’ regarding to his sexual preference towards women with long hair as well as his mentioning of one night stand, it reminds me of my brief eavesdropping during the recent midnight tea session with my husband and his friend. I have forgotten of the importance of not talking or the dangers of being overly friendly with strangers until I ‘accidentally eavesdropped’ on the people who were having tea on the table opposite of mine. I have forgotten that there are always bastards walking around us who can’t wait to take advantage on people that they just met.
I was silently enjoying my cuppa tea with my husband and his friend at a cafe when a group of loudmouthed asshole with the manners and language of a drunken sailor arrived and occupied the table opposite of mine. Looking closely, I recognize two of them as bloggers who often shared their sexual rendezvous with various women they picked up at the club or discos each weekends on their blog site.
I will not mention the link of their blog here for security reason, but it’s sufficient to say that these bastards had shamelessly shared on how to pick up women, spike their drinks as well as how to make their erection last as long as possible so that they could have fun all night long with a couple of witless woman or underage girls. If what they wrote in their blog is true then their sexual escapades were usually one night stand and no strings attached. While most that they bedded were willing partners who wants to have sexual pleasure with them for one night, there are some, I suspect, are victims of drug and had non-consensual sex with these men while they are high on the substance. When they woke up the morning after, everything is just too late.
I was annoyed and uninterested with their loud conversation at first and I don’t give a damn on how immoral they want to live their life until two young girls, probably still in high school passed by the table. From the way these two girls look, observers would easily passed them as minors.
These two bastards let out wolf whistle towards the two girls, which I consider an utter disrespect towards women in general. I was half expecting the girls to be pissed with their action ignore them, but much to my surprise, these two girls were not displeased with their wolf whistle. Instead, they seems to be pleased and took the whole whistle incident as a compliment instead. The girls giggled and whispered to each other coyly.
The guys took note of the girls’ reaction towards their flirtatious whistling. One of them stood up, and continued to flirt with the girls and invited them for a drink at their table. As the girls gratefully took their seat, as if they were waiting for such invitation to be extended to them, one of the guys took liberty to order drinks from the waiter who passed by the table without even asking the girls their drinking preference.
The drinks were served to them after a couple of minutes, and the guys started to ask the girls on their personal details, such as age, name, contact numbers and where they live. Giggling, the girls supplied the answers to their question. I was right about the girls, they were minors. The girls are schoolmates aging 15 and 16 years respectively, just finished tuition class, if I’m not mistaken.
To be honest, I almost choked on my tea when I heard their conversation. Those girls were so easy to supply personal information about themselves. Do they not know the dangers of doing so with people they just met? Don’t they know that it’s dangerous to loiter around during midnight that way?
When I was their age, my parents had a curfew where I had to be be home before 7.30pm, and any later than that time, if I wanted to go out, I will be escorted by either my father or mother. My safety and virtue was closely guarded when I was their age. Silently, I wondered if their parents are aware of their whereabouts, as at that time, the clock will soon strike 12 midnight in a few minutes. Were their parents too busy to care where their daughters go at that ungodly hour? They are after all, teenagers, no less.
While I was busy musing about their ignorance as well as their parents, I caught one of the guys putting his hand on the girls lap and rubs on suggestively. My eyes went round at the sight of this and half expected that the girl in question would slap his hand away, but again, I was wrong. She did not. What shocked me to the core was what happened next, which is the guy nuzzled the girl slightly as he whispered something into her ears. She then nod shyly as she blushed.
After a while, the guy announced to his friend, who was talking to the other girl that he’s bringing the girl for a joy ride and then maybe will bring her back to his apartment so that he can ‘show her around’. The guy then asked his friend and the other girl if they would like to join him. Grinning, his friend’s reply was he’d prefer to give the two of them privacy to do whatever they wanted to do, and he’s pretty sure that he’ll manage to keep himself ‘occupied’ that night. Now, I don’t know where he brought the girl to and what they did together that night, but I’m quite sure that it’s quite illegal, seeing the whole episode earlier, where the girl had mention that it’s weekend and she have no plan to go home early. She did mention in her earlier conversation that the night is still young and she wants to have some fun. The guy, on the other hand were willing to show her some ‘fun’.
The guy probably spin her for a ride in his car and most probably brought her back to his apartment later and persuade her to have one night stand with him. They maybe had sex, and maybe not, but generally speaking, there’s a lot of cases like this where girls cried rape when things turn sour. The girl in question may be a willing partner in the whole situation, but I wonder if she really thought it over and would not regret it later in her life.
News where a girls claimed that they had been rape after things turn sour after their dates will never run out with young girls behaving this way. They may consent to whatever was acted upon them, but once they realize that they had lost virginity, nude pictures being taken or sexual act being recorded, they would make a huge fuss about it.
The question here is, why did they not think before they act? Why do these girls did not take caution when dealing with strangers but throw themselves to the strangers instead? Why do they easily follow people who they just met? Aren’t they aware of the dangers that may befall them by practicing such friendliness towards strangers?
While I am fully aware that this is modern era where women are quite liberated and usually handled themselves in an outgoing manner, I would like to stress that whatever we do, there’s a limit and borders to it. I can’t believe that I’m saying this, but I would like to remind young ladies out there who dare to do whatever they wish to be careful, and not to get too involved with strangers that they just met. Please do not follow men that you just know at wimp, as their intention is not always honorable. You may say I’m conservative, but let’s just say this is a friendly reminder from a woman who is concern for her fellow women’s well being and safety. It’s always better to be safe than sorry.
Cleffairy: Shhh… don’t be too friendly with strangers…they take ‘candies’ from babes!