What’s up with you men? You guys may look like a hunk, with six pack and suave moves that may swoon any ladies on the street with your charms and smiles, but in bed, tsk tsk tsk. You men, especially Asian men simply lack action, initiative and romance towards your lover, wife, partner, girlfriend, or whatever you want to call the one who shares your bed. Your dance of desires on the bed are simply lame, routine, boring and lack of creativity. What’s up, men, never heard of kamasutra? Well, google it.
Most woman would be relieved if you get off from her after you’re done with your deeds and secretly have the desire to kick you men off from the bed for being selfish in bed. Most of you men simply ‘throw’ your woman on the bed, get on her, do whatever you need to do and roll off to your side when your done shooting your loads, and snore off to dreamland, leaving your woman to grumble at your act.
What’s up with the rush for ejaculation without pleasuring your woman until she scream your name mindless? What’s wrong with you men? Not man enough to make an effort to make your lady satiated and crave for more of your wild gentle ministration? Come on, men, show us women what you guys are made of. Must you men cut short foreplays just to satisfy your own needs?
Must you men snore off five minutes after ejaculating and ignore your woman’s need for afterplay? A woman needs to feel loved and appreciated, not feel like being ‘used’ as a sex tool for men to release their need. Yes, men. There is such thing as an afterplay. I doubt that most of you don’t care about it enough to know what it actually means.
Husbands, how many of you manage to give your wife an orgasm and get her to scream your name mindless? Studies shown that there are a lot of married woman who never actually experienced an orgasm before and most admit that they actually have to fake an orgasm so that their husband/partner would not be hurt during a their hush hush woman talk with their peers.
For women who have been at least more than two years of relationship with the same man would wryly admit that their man would make an effort to please them in bed at the beginning of their relationship, but soon enough, without fail, their man’s passion in bed would be laughable. Men no longer made an effort to put some fire in their bedroom performance after some time in their relationship, and sex, soon would be a one week once routine activity that is done half-heartedly that probably last less than 30 minutes per session instead of a one or two hour of raw passion and displays of love.
Sex is not just about duty and obligation towards your partner or the need to release your stress or pent up frustration, but it’s a consummation of love, and it’s supposed to bring your relationship to to a higher ground, and improve the relationship that you have out of the bedroom. Sex should be a tool that bond your soul together, not just some certain thing that is manipulated to ‘release your manly needs’.
And what’s this about you men refusing to use condoms to protect your partner from unplanned/unwanted pregnancy and STD/STI? Why is it you men give 1001 reasons not to use one? Here’s some lame and common excuses that you men usually use to reason with your woman on not using a condom. I bet there are more in your head that I did not manage to list over here:
1. Condoms are too expensive. Using one would be a waste of money, because we will end up throwing it away, anyway. So better save the money.
2. Lack of ‘feeling’ when using a condom because the rubber is too tight on my ….(insert your favourite pet name for your penis)
3. It won’t be so easy to get pregnant, so don’t need to use a condom. Let’s just use withdrawal technique instead.
4. I don’t have a condom with me. That proves I’m a good guy, I never slept with anyone else before besides you.
5. I’m too shy to get one from the drugstore, because the cashier will know that I will be having sex.
6. Condoms are hard to put on.
7. Condoms will spoil the mood, if I take some time to use it, I might not be in the mood for sex later.
8.Ejaculating inside without anything to impede is simply sexy and macho. I feel good doing it.
9. I don’t know how to use a condom.
10. I want to wait until just before ejaculating before using a condom. Don’t worry, no cum, no pregnancy.
Seeing the reasons that you men use to get your woman to have sex with your without protection when you’re not planning to conceive a child yet really never cease to amuse me. Who says men are not vocal? They are indeed vocal when it comes to getting women to do what they want them to do and have it their way.
For your information, ladies and gentleman, not using a condom during sexual intercourse does not guarantee that your partner would not get pregnant as long as you do not ejaculate inside. The pre-cum fluid does contain sperms. So ladies and gentleman, if you and your partner are not ready to face the fact that you won’t be having sex at the same time nine month later but got stuck trying to pacify a wailing infant who gets hungry every two hours and poop on the diapers after each feeding, please, by all means, use protection in a correct manner.
Men, don’t give the lame excuse that condoms are expensive and stuff. If you can afford to buy some disgustingly hi- tech toys like handphones and cars and not to mention can afford to treat your peers for lunch or tea, you definitely can afford to buy a pack or a box of condoms. Too shy to get some condoms from the drugstore is just an excuse not to use one, so woman, never fall for such excuses.
Women, you definitely have the rights to say no to an invitation to sexual intercourse by your partner if he refuse your suggestion to use any form of protection or if you’re not in the mood to have sex. Say no if you don’t feel like doing it. This does not only apply to women. Men, you can say no to sex too, if you’re not in the mood to have sex. Lack of desire or lust may affect your performance in bed, and consequently, may build resentment and dissatisfaction about each other in your relationship. Your sex life may indeed affect the life outside of it, be it you realize it or not.
Feel free to talk about what you like and what you do not like about your making love session honestly. Don’t keep what you’re not satisfied about your partner’s performance in bed to yourself. Keeping it to yourself is not going to improve your sex life as your partner may not be aware about it. The more you learn about each other’s need and try to improve your sex life, the better your relationship would be.
Some religion would have you believe that sex is merely an obligation and women should surrender to men/husband’s need by laying down on the bed and stare at the ceiling while accepting whatever it is to come to you, but that is definitely not true. You’re made of flesh and blood, and you are entitle to be pleasured in bed. Again and again, yours truly would like to stress that sex is not an obligation, but a union that bind two soul as one.
I have recently learn that women are quite reluctant to talk about condoms and protection, even when they are hired to do so in my recent visit to Durexpsonible Exhibition that goes on the same time as the GOssip event that I attended. Such thing should be addressed. Why should women feel intimidated or shy when talking about sex and the usage of birth control and protection? I was very annoyed to find that the Durex ladies who are in charge of the exhibition are timid women who refuses to even talk about the importance of condoms. Durex Malaysia should address this matter.
They did not even made an effort to explain their product range, but simply hand up brochures and free condoms samples and considered that their job is done. When I was asking their product range, not just condoms but lubricants and sex toys that Durex produce, I found myself pretty annoyed that they actually lack knowledge in it. If you are going to behave like a shrew when your job is supposed to explain to people about the importance of safe sex, you might as well go home and do nothing. It’s a shame that the ones chosen to promote Durex product are not doing justice to the products that Durex produced.
I was very disappointed to find out that in this modern society where campaign about celebrating and liberating women is done over and over again by various parties and individuals, the same mindset still remains unchanged. What does it take, actually, to make women to talk about sex and whatnot openly without feeling degraded or intimidated? I have been talking and writing about sex, unwanted/unplanned pregnancy, abortion and whatever that is related to sex since I was in high school, so why the rest of my kind can’t do the same?
As annoyed and disappointed I was with the lack of knowledge that the Durexsponsible representative has, I still manage to get some freebies, brochures and a couple of pictures despite of the nasty and stereotyping look that probably labeled me as a bitch for asking questions about sex and protection openly. Fine, give me the nasty glares, at least I am aware of the importance of being well informed about safe sex. The pictures below are some of the things at the Durex booth.
And the thing that catches my eyes from the beginning of my visit to the Durex booth. The pretty dress that was displayed at the booth. It’s cream in colour, sheer and silky. Don’t be fooled by the beautiful appearance though. I doubt it’s meant to be worn as a casual material, because it’s actually made from hundreds or maybe thousands of condoms. I assume it’s made from Durex Featherlite Ultima, because I took the liberty to touch the dress, and it’s as soft as satin and silk, and the texture of the condoms was extremely thin. It’s also lubricated. Ladies, you might want to get a dress made of condoms. That might knock some clues to your thickheaded and bloke of a man who wants to have sexual intercourse with you without protection.
Cleffairy: Ladies and gentleman, to have a quality making love session, you need to have a protected and uninterrupted time together. Keep your family members at bay and annoying handphones away, and make sure you don’t bring work and worries into the bedroom while you’re in action.