Of toasts and grilled cheese sandwich…

You know, I don’t exactly have a forgiving human with fairy-like temperament. I have nasty temper that could only be controlled not with criticism, but with kindness and logic.

While I welcome constructive criticism, I do not appreciate illogical nonsense being hurled at me. Typical, shrewed Virgoan trait, I suppose. A curse, and a blessing in so many ways.

I am also a very practical person. If you ask me to get a boob job so that I could fill in my A size bra cups properly, I’d say I would be better off bra-less or use those nipple stickers instead. Should I give a damn if my breasts are not as big as a pair of papayas sticking out of my shirt? I think they are fine, thank you very much. After all, it served it’s purpose pretty well as I did breastfeed my boy for three whole month back then. I’m all substance over style, thank you very much. What good is having two pointy silicon breast if you couldn’t even breastfeed your baby anyway?

I have the memory of an elephant. I never forget people’s kindness…and same goes otherwise. I am the kind who would wish to repay people’s kindness and generosity ten times more than they have bestowed upon me, and same goes otherwise too.

I was looking at my toaster this morning. I haven’t been using it for a while now. For a moment, I wonder why I stopped using it and grill my bread on the non-stick pan instead. It’s strangely impractical. Then, after a trip down the memory lane, I recalled why I stopped using them; I got rather disgusted with the memory that it brought me, and therefore, to spare me the pain  and the anger of remembering the unpleasant event each time I touch the toaster, I stopped using it altogether.

You see, not long ago… I prepared breakfast for my family. And because the entire household was running late, it was rather practical to keep breakfast as simple and as quick as possible. I could still remember, I prepared some toast. Toasts with peanut butter and margarine as well as grilled cheese sandwich to be washed down with tea and coffee as well as chocolate drink to be exact.

It is nothing gourmet, I admit. It is a typical breakfast in many household, no? I daresay quite a lot of people take toasts as breakfast. It’s fast, filling and most importantly, very practical. It also provides enough energy to last til lunch for most.

While my little family were having some toast binge, came the question “Why do you take toasted bread in the morning? Toasts are very heaty”. It is a question posed in a criticizing way and it rendered me speechless, and silently, I wondered if I was expected to cook up a feast fit for a monarch. Perhaps… roasted chicken with stuffings along with pastas? Or maybe some elaborate dishes you usually see at wedding dinners?

I don’t know. I couldn’t understand why the question was asked. Because to me… even though it was a simple breakfast, I think the toast served it’s purpose. After all, so many people in the world is starving as I my family and I had a blast with the toasts. One got to learn to live in moderation and be thankful for every single meal that’s placed on the table. For what it’s worth, it could have been worst….for some, even having toasts for breakfast is a luxury they can’t afford.

Today, when I looked at my old abandoned toaster, I come to realize that it was not the toasts’ fault that the question was asked. There was nothing wrong with the toasts. And there’s nothing wrong with me either as some people are really hard to pleased and hard to live with, and nothing makes them happy, no matter how hard you try to please them.

I realized now that even if I had actually prepared a feast fit for a King and Queen’s banquet that fateful morning, criticism will still be heard in  a different question… perhaps, this will be asked :”Why do you eat so much for breakfast? You’ll be sleepy and late if you eat too much”

Anyway, grilled cheese sandwich is a very simple and filling breakfast you can have if you’re running late in the morning. Here’s the recipe, in case you’d like to try:


4 slices white bread

3 tablespoons butter, divided

2 slices Cheddar cheese

This is how you do it:

Preheat skillet over medium heat. Generously butter one side of a slice of bread. Place bread butter-side-down onto skillet bottom and add 1 slice of cheese. Butter a second slice of bread on one side and place butter-side-up on top of sandwich. Grill until lightly browned and flip over; continue grilling until cheese is melted. Repeat with remaining 2 slices of bread, butter and slice of cheese.

Cleffairy: Some people cannot be pleased, no matter how hard you try. So stop trying to go around and please others and live for yourself. Trust me, you’d feel a lot better.


  1. mingle2 dating site says: http://cleffairy.com/credit-score-dating/

    I still have the pop-up toaster that a friend gave me for my wedding almost 30 years ago…and my missus also bought the one where you place the slices of bread with the filling in between and you press down and toast. Not so much into the latter – kinda messy. But I do prefer toasting bread lightly on a frying pan – crusty on the outside and nice and soft inside…not all crusty like when they pop out of a toaster.

    P.S. These days, I believe in doing everything my own way – what I want. Not much time left to live my life for the sake of others…and if anybody has a problem with that, they are the ones with the problem – not me!

      • Cleffairy says:

        @Cikgu…wah, 30 years still can tahan ah the toaster? these days… once over the warranty period… those appliances goes KABOOM. Like got time bomb! Indeed, life is too short for the approval of others. Better be ourselves and be happy.

        @Kat Yalorr… these days ah… everything oso cepat rosak… damn sien la… see my rice cooker… baru rosak yesterday… baru beli aje last year. 🙁

    • Cleffairy says:

      No la… fed up liao… makan luar lah… biar ppl serve me… den can complain complain lohh…kalau tarak syok with the menu, can complain the restaurant. Kan bagus? U happy, I happy… just pocket tak berapa happy onli la…

  2. Cheeyee says:

    Hahaha I hardly toast my bread too… not because of heaty but due to me being lazy. LOL!

    Btw, according to some Chinese, lots of food are heaty. Even you order a plate of chao kuey teow, or hokkien mee is heaty too as long as it is fried. If we really want to avoid those “heaty” food, then a lots of food we can’t eat liao. Do we really need to do so? I believe that as long as we practice eating moderately, there should not be any food that we have to avoid any food. Eat while we are still healthy! Imagine there are some people have to avoid particular food due to their health condition.

    • Cleffairy says:

      Haihh, this heaty, that heaty… this cold, that cold… dunno what can eat lah. tak payah makan lorr liddat, correct anot? Just sit there and do photosynthesis! Absorb sunlight for nutrient. LOL!

  3. Philip says:

    I like that ‘all substance over style.’ I prefer real over fake too and function over form. No point having pretty things around if they don’t have a function. Next time someone criticize your food, ask them to make their own.

  4. goldflower86 says:

    hmph! my mum also will bising if see me eat toasted bread. heaty lah she said. hhehehehe
    i think they afraid we got sick.
    but like what cheeyee said, so many food is heaty too.
    if want to avoid all, cham lor.nothing to eat liao.

    • Cleffairy says:

      Tough luck la… breakfast i will eat alot and those things are all like ‘fuel’ wan. My typical breakfast usually summore nasi lemak, CKT and all those heaty stuff. Well… if wanna get sick… no matter what we do will get sick oso…stand in the rain oso will get sick ma… dun nid to wait for u to eat toasted bread to get sick! All of my 26 years of life… so far haven’t got sick because of eating toasted bread or grilled cheese sandwich yet… so I tink… it’s not that poisonous lorr…

  5. Bananazஇ says:

    Oh still having the thoughts of [SK] cheese massage and thinking of your cheese massage with toast sandwich haha. Somehow prefer eat as it is to save time now that they have raisins added. tQ for the recipe should give it a grill one day.

  6. Bananazஇ says:

    Oh still having the thoughts of [SK] cheese massage and thinking of your cheese massage with toast sandwich haha. Somehow prefer eat as it is to save time now that they have raisins added. tQ for the recipe should give it a grill one day.

  7. Gratitude says:

    This season of festivities is a wonderful way to increase our spiritual consciousness. Please use this period of joy to add light to the world with our thoughts, words, feelings, actions, beliefs and attitudes….and we will hear the presence our divine guidance, without the interference of our selfish human egos. I wish you peace and joy this festive season. Have a Blessed Winter Solstice, Christmas and New Year, dearest fairy and all at home ^_^

  8. tuti says:

    i understand. it’s the tone. the intention. not just the ‘heaty’ toast remark.
    but one day, just use the toaster lah, before it spoils. *wink*

    • Cleffairy says:

      Still traumatized… couldn’t bring myself to use the toaster again as the scene will replay in my head over and over again. *sigh* I have very photographic memory, you see… so usually they’re very vivid. Indeed… it is not the remark, but the intention behind it…and the tone that was used… it was not of concern, but of… you know… criticism… and not positive one either too. It was the kind… no matter what you do… and no matter how good you are… you’ll still be damned.

  9. MRC says:

    I’m at lost sometimes over your postings – sometimes i feel it was NOT you but agree with last Sayings:

    Cleffairy: Some people cannot be pleased, no matter how hard you try. So stop trying to go around and please others and live for yourself. Trust me, you’d feel a lot better.

    Big AYE to above!

    • Cleffairy says:

      Well… perhaps that’s because you don’t know me too well… I tend to write in a rather emotionally at times. *sigh* Life is too short for the approval of others, might as well live for ourselves.

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