The Idea of Love

Love is a very universal thing, there are many sort of love exist in this world. Love for your parents, love for your country, love for your family, love for your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend as well as love for God. When I was a child, I used to say that love is mother nature’s little trick to make people reproduce, but as I grow up, I realized that love actually have a deeper meaning. It’s more than flowers, poetries and diamonds. Between couples, I feel that love should go beyond the glory of courtship and romance.

A few days ago, I come across an old couple, in their seventies having breakfast at a mamak stall, and I overheard their conversation that almost made me cry on the spot. (Damn, a lot of things can make me cry). The wife told her husband that she missed their children who hardly give a damn about them, and she feared that one day she will end in an old folk’s home sooner or later. Her husband looked up from his roti canai and smiled at his wife. He took her hands and pat it softly. In a very reassuring voice, he told her that even all of their children refused to take care of her, he will, and for as long as he lived, he would not forsake her. They then ate in a comfortable silence, and as soon as they finished their meal, the husband paid for it and held out his hands to his wife, much to my surprise. She took it, and they held hands while they walked and crossed the road. I had expected the husband to let go of the wife’s hand after crossing the road, but they did not. They continued to hold their hands as they fade away from my view, much to my surprise. Honestly, I had not expect that.

For the rest of you over here, holding hands may be a simple gesture exchanged by a couple, but how many of us are lucky enough to experience that? I mean, how many of us are lucky enough to grow old together with our spouse, and have not lost the act of affection? I actually hate public display of affection shown by horny young lads who are convinced that they are in love, but of all romantic PDAs I’ve seen before, this one had really touched me deeply, and I’m not even disgusted with their public display of affection. It nearly bring me to tears and strike my nerve. The old couple probably do not have a few years to carry on living with each other, but they are cherishing every single seconds that past by with each other. And I dare bet that while the old couple probably pray for more time to spend with one another, many of us here took our spouse for granted, and forget to show how much we love them.

Today, I’d like to give a gentle reminder to all of you out there not to take your husband or wife for granted in the pursuit of worldly matter. Love them, and cherish them, for life is short. Why not hold their hand or a kiss or two just to remind them how much you love them today? Who cares if your children sees your PDAs? Let them have the benefit of witnessing the love that their parents have for each other. After all, you did utter this particular vow during your wedding day…

To have and to hold,
From this day forward,
For better or worse,
For richer or poorer,
In sickness and in health,
To love and to cherish,
‘Till death do us part

Cleffairy: We can fall in love, and we also can fall out of love. Don’t let love and affection fade away with time.


  1. peteformation says:

    Aiyo, want to cry again. If I do that today, my wife will be thinking that I have done something wrong! Just joking. This year, we will celebrate our 22nd aniversary, heh heh.

  2. Calvin says:

    my mom always reminded me time and time again, before i paktor, before i go steady, before my marriage and till now. she always said that “action speaks louder than words”, which is very very true. you can always feel affection thru one’s touch. that’s why, i always believe in holding hands as couples (…dun overdo it lar), opening doors and such. in addition, always remind wife/husband that you love her/him. it may sound corny for us cina apeks but you shld give it a try. i always say i love you to my wife, my mom, my sis….heck even my bro in law. a peck on the cheek every morning brightens the day…..I LOVE YOU GUYS!!! hehehe

  3. cleffairy says:

    Goku, glad it touches you.

    Pete…hmm… come to think of it, you’re right. But then again, just don;’t overdo it lah, then you will be fine. Wah! 22nd Anniversary. Congratulations to you and your missus, Pete. Hope you both en en ai ai! 😀

    Calvin, your mom ROX. Sounds corny for Cina apeks? LOL…affections towards our loved ones are not just for er…white ass people. It’s just that we are more discreet and don’t overdo like they do 😛

  4. cleffairy says:

    LOL, seng…cannot teach them til too good, wait later other kids bully. 😀
    Must teach them how to fight back oso. 😛

  5. ktx says:

    emmm, wow, that’s real love. it’s something i wanna emulate. terhe is one thing i still could not express, saying i love u to mom and pa. perhaps wer were brought up the old fashion ways. we (+my siblings) often engage in discussions which r often seem to be offending to show care and concern, it’s some small part of the hakka’s tradition i guess. well, of course, apart fomr the makans and fun outings, but when it comes to mushy mushy things, emmm, not really. emmm, we did request the ‘i love u mom’ icings on the cake tho…lol.

    btw, can u roughly list down all the things that can make cleffairy cries??? keke

  6. KevinP says:

    Clef… your posts really like love theraphy la… must go back hold hands, kiss wife… be mushy mushy… and hint hint to her on what I want for my coming birthday… (wink)

  7. cleffairy says:

    Ktx… yea, that’s how real love should be like, isn’t it? Not just those courtship we usually see young people get involve in(omg, i sound so old!). you’re from a conservative hakka family? But that’s okay, cuz I think caring for others doesn’t mean you have to be all mushy and stuff. I bet you show it through mundane daily stuff… and even when you don’t say it, they know that you love them 😛

    Ahfu, I’m not sure if we can hold the love forever or not. I cannot answer that. But I know that we must not neglect or take the ones around us for granted. Don’t you think so?

    Pamina, actually my mom and dad hold hands and hug quite often…but when they overdo it… me and my sis will go “Ewwwwww”. 😛
    Some kids we are right? They will laugh at us without fail each time, saying “If we don’t llove each other like tis, where the hell do you think you two come from?” LMAO

    Kevin, your birthday is coming? Gogo, hint hint what you want. Ahahahaha!

  8. Son Goku says:

    Clef says:
    “actually my mom and dad hold hands and hug quite often…but when they overdo it… me and my sis will go “Ewwwwww”

    hahahahaha! we always have that expression whenever we see our parents’ PDA. hahahahaha!

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