Tips to wives out there- signs of your husband cheating on you

While I’m aware that there are devoted and loving husbands out there, I’m also aware that men loves to have fun at the expanse of their marriage. After a few years being married to their wife, sometimes men tend to seek entertainment outside. Their excuse are usually they are stressed with things that’s going on at home, the kids are too noisy, bored with fucking the same woman for years, and so the list goes on. And since I’m quite tired and wary when I’m writing this article, I’ll cut the small talk and go straight to the point. Here’s some rather common things those cheating husband does when they are cheating on you:

  1. They start off with they wanted to have more time for themselves, to be with friends, to socialize, to relax without disruption, etc. Wives, beware, that doesn’t always mean that they really want to have more time for themselves, sometimes they are doing something naughty and not nice outside.
  2. When the wife got quite pissed off with their ‘not wanting to spend more time’ with the family attitude, they started to use going out with close friends to have supper or tea as excuse.
  3. The husbands will make sure to use their friend’s phone calls to the max. Letting the wife listen to their conversation and make sure the wife thought that they are going out with a male friend for a period of time.
  4. They started to spend more time with their so-called best friend. Take this as an example, the ‘best friend’ would seek the husband out at least every 2-3 days once. (usually, the best friend are covering up for them during those bloody calls)
  5. Your husband stays out til wee hour. Until 5am to 6am in the morning, at least, and sneak in, hoping that you’re already asleep and do not realize what time he came back home.
  6. They get very agitated when you ask them questions, and their mood turn sour when you started to curse their best friend or colleague for not understanding that they shouldn’t ask your husband out so often as he is a family man.
  7. The husband becomes less interested in the wife and started to blame the wife on every single things that goes wrong in his bloody daily life.
  8. The husband started to encourage the wife to change. Like her dressing, her hairstyle, her perfume, etc.
  9. Another sign is when the husband started to reject ‘unwanted’ phone calls when the wife is around, only sms or return calls moments later.
  10. They get VERY protective of their handphones. Even at home, they keep their handphones at very close proximity, not wanting the wife to see who was calling or check their sms without them knowing.
  11. They quickly delete sms from their blasted and shameless girlfriend when you’re beside them, and their intention is only one thing, which is to keep the wife in the dark about their extra-marital relationship.
  12. Their money is always never enough,and when you question them about it, they’ll point to the petrol station.
  13. Their phonebills skyrocketed.
  14. The husband will not expect you to pay a surprise lunch visit, or look for them when they are out during his ‘male-bonding’ time.
  15. The husband gets more and more fussy about his appearance. If before, he look rather sluggish when he goes out of the house, now he’s smartly dressed. He’s even wearing cologne and perfume, even though he’s never been a fan of those fancy water.
  16. They started to be EXTRA nice to you.
  17. They started to suggest you to go out with your own friends more and socialize.
  18. The husband suddenly have a lot of clients and meetings to attend to.
  19. They didn’t come back home to sleep, but told the wife that they fell asleep in the car because they are too tired to drive home after their ‘regular’ drinking session, etc.
  20. They suddenly have a lot of outstation trips.
  21. They get very defensive when you found out about their girlfriend.
  22. And they get very pissed off with that they’re willing to launch war with when you confronted their girlfriend and upset her.
  23. In bed, it’s no longer about making love. It’s purely sex and the need to unload. No passion or emotional involvement whatsoever. Just enter, unload, and get off from her.
  24. The man started to make excuses about having sex with the wife and refuse her. He’s tired, not in the mood, and all sort of excuses are given.
  25. They keep their credit cards bills within their clutches.
  26. They started to claim that they watched certain movies with you when you’re sure as hell that you haven’t watch it yet.
  27. There’s always spare clothes in the car that you don’t know of.
  28. They are always on the go, and staying at home is like a punishment to them.
  29. They spaced out pretty often.
  30. They started to feel that parenting is solely the wife’s responsibility and they found the kids are such nuisance.
  31. They’re always late when they’re suppose to pick you up from somewhere, but they’re move like a bullet when their friend called them out.

The ones listed above is probably just a few signs that a wife should be aware of when you suspect your husband is cheating on you. I’m sure you guys knows more, so feel free to add.


Cleffairy: So, your husband is cheating on you. You know it, but kept quiet for the sake of your marriage and the children. But, how do you know when he is crossing the line?


  1. getoffyourhighhorse says:

    ur husband is cheating on u.. u know why? He cannot stand u sitting on ur high horse giving people so called “tips” like u know it all.. Just look at ur last few entries. stop blowing ur own fuckin trumpet.

  2. kellaw says:

    Wei I am guilty of most of the clauses you stated le but I don’t have someone outside there. so how? Does that means I am cheating with my books, laptops and work?(maybe blog and sleep too)

    share with you a funny story la

    A man comes to a doctor and, twitching his fingers and stuttering, finally manages to say, “Doctor, I have a sexual performance problem.
    Can you help me?”
    “Oh, that’s not a problem for us men anymore!” announces a proud physician, “They just came out with this new wonder drug, Viagra, that does the trick! You take some pills, and your problems are history.”
    So the doctor gives the man a prescription and sends him on his merry way.
    A couple of months later, the doctor runs into his patient on the street. “Doctor, Doctor!” exclaims the man excitedly, “I’ve got to thank you! This drug is a miracle! It’s wonderful! I’ve had sex fourteen times in eight days!”
    “Well, I’m glad to hear that” says the pleased physician, “What does your wife think about it?”
    “Wife?” asks the man, “I haven’t even been home yet!”

  3. amoker says:

    Thanks for the tips. Will try to do that when i get married next time. haha
    Find the drinking with friends thing too obvious ..

    Another one. Man will ask wife to perform ‘out of norm’ sexual acts.

  4. Tera says:

    Hey, you guys remember the infamous John and Lorena Bobbitt? The wife that chopped off the husband’s ehem? Although he didn’t actually commit affair but he did raped her. Saw this on Astro E! last night. Scary.

    Anyway, no worries. John actually managed to reconnect his ehem and went on to become a famous adult movie actor. Wat a survivor huh?

    But ladies, lets not solve problems with violence. There are lots of way to make those cheating men realize why it is wrong to cheat.

  5. eugene says:

    Hello dear, as a matter of factly, ladies dont need any tips to tell if their husbands are cheating on them or not. They just can feel and sense it, i strongly believe in a lady’s instinct.

    The problem is not whether the husband cheats on them or not, but it is most often than not that ladies would give these cheating buggers too many chance of turning over a new leaf.

    But like Calvin subtly implies, wives do cheat on the husband too.

    Anyway if you love somebody dearly and deeply, you wouldnt do anything to hurt her, would you ?

    Happy marriage to all that includes great sex, great company, great moments, great openess, great time spent together, great passion shared together, and great beers .

  6. isley chang says:

    tips no 16 : they started to be EXTRA nice to you.

    dont you think is abit unfair to the good husband?? if all the wives out there buy this tips?

    sometime out of sudden, husband can be extra nice to his wife. eg: he won toto or 4d, so buy a lv bag for his beloved wife. how about that??

  7. ahfu says:

    honestly speaking… i do need freedom and time with my friends… wish my future wife could take it (of course i wont leave her alone staying home)

  8. amoker says:

    Not married le. But funnily, i have talked to 2 friends who are and can learn different aspects of marraige life.

    I can’t comprehend that a wife dun want to have sex with the husband and turns a blind eye on his need, knowing well that they will opt then for ‘those’ choices. And once the husband has tried the forbidden fruit, definately will want more…

  9. cleffairy says:

    Dear everyone, I sincerely apologize for my lack of response…work is practically occupying my time, and the Inet is not so accessible to me at the moment. I’ll try to respond as frequently as I can. πŸ˜€ Please excuse me for my inefficiency…

    Zara…yes, sometimes men can be very scary. Before marriage, they’re all sweet and nice, but after marriage, it’s all the spices… ahahaha…same goes to women, but then again, let’s keep in mind that not all men are like that. Some are actually very good and decent.

    Getoffyourhighhorse…wat’s the matter, can’t accept feminism? I like to stay on my ‘horse’, so buzz off. My last few ‘fucking’ entries are about parenting and reminding people not to take their children for granted…a bozo like you wun be able to understand it, so go and screw yourself.

    Jo… aiyo, girl, dun let me scare you la…I’m sure your future husband wun be like that…have more faith on your love. Surely he loves you that he wun do such things to you.

    … ahaha, no shits… I heard about that joke before…ahahahaha. Damn the fucking husband lorr… screw outside so much… 14 times in 8 days… who the hell is the lucky woman… lmao…

    Calvin… I dun think Rachel got lurk in my blog la…ahahaha… never see her leave her traces here. And yes, you’re absolutely right about men have to watch out about their wife too… actually this kind of things works both ways. Not only the men do hanky panky things outside. Some wife shamelessly keep lovers as well.

    Amoker… alamak! You wanna try? Eeeeeee…. dun let your wife find out who I am… wait she kill me for giving you ideas… ahaha…men asking wife to perform out of norm sexual acts… like ‘dressing up’ ah? Actually, about your ‘wife dun wanna have sex when her husband want it’, cannot be applied to all men. Some men lost their libido early, you know…sometimes it’s the wife who wants to have sex but the husband is too busy watching football or snoring away. =.= A lot are like that lehhh…u wun believe how many are like that…we women sometimes talk about this when we’re in our own circle.

    Eugene, you’re absolutely right. When men cheats on his wife with another woman, it does not mean that the woman in question is single. She may be another man’s wife too! Yep, actually women do not need to be told. We actually can feel it when our husband have a change of heart. *sigh* we women tend to let our husband off when we found out that our husband is having affair for the sake of marriage and children. Sometimes, we also let them off and forgive them when they claim that they’re just doing it for fun and they are not emotionally involved with their ‘girlfriend’. It’s just a matter of patience and limit, actually. There will be times where women cannot take it anymore and explode.

    Isley…erm… I’m guessing you’re not yet married. Ahahaha… when you’re married to the same man for about 10 years, and before this he never buys you anything as a token of love or appreciation…there MUST be a reason why he suddenly buys you something expensive. LOL… this one doesn’t really apply to those husband who buys and lavish their wives with gifts frequently, btw. πŸ˜› If a husband wins a toto and just buy lv bag for the wife, that’s abit off la… cuz if really win alot in toto, and just buy an lv bag, sure got keep mistress somewhere. LV bag if cheap nia wud, if you really get jackpot or win toto. LMAO. Should at least bring wife go vacation wud. LOL.

    … it’s understandable that you need to have your own time and freedom, but make sure you dun just ‘lock’ your wife at home. She also needs to socialize the way you do, as she is also human. What pissed off most wives when their husband goes out and socialize alot is not because they want to control their husband. Some actually nag their husband for going out too much with their friends because they’re stuck at home babysitting or even changing diapers while the husband gets to do whatever they want. It’s not fair, you see? Wife also needs to de-stress. I can’t understand why men only think that they need to de-stress and their wife dun, and should only stay at home. Imagine getting stuck babysitting your hyperactive kids almost 24/7 while the husband goes out and escape the chores…I’m telling you, no wife won’t nag when the husband gets home.

    Kevin… do summore la… ahahahaha…

    , sure… can use on all men… muahahahahha…

  10. calvin says:

    replying to amoker……wah, you geng weh!!! you wanna try sm or bukake…..hehehehe. clef, you shouldve asked rachel about me……im geng in bed…..hehehehehe πŸ˜›

  11. cleffairy says:

    Kevin…lmao…aiya… actually these things are common tricks wud… we wives know wan, just keep quiet nia, dowan trouble, and hope you all are not emotionally involved with the other women nia wud. LOL.

    Calvin… omg, yuck! Bukake is such a turn off! Can make ppl puke wan! Hmm… must dig out Rachel liao…I’m sure she’s very good in bed too, since her husband is addicted to her. Whahahaha.

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