Sometimes, it is just so easy…

Eugene posted something about marriage and relationship, as well as trust between couples. His entry gave me a flashback or two, and I realize that no matter how much we love someone, it is just so easy to walk away under certain circumstances. Kindly head over to his blog to read the whole article.

He asked 3 question, and here’s the edited version of my answer:

Q)Why cant a lady trust the man when she is asked to?

Because when a man asked his wife to trust him, he did not make her feel secure by providing answers to her questions. Instead, he gave her more reasons to distrust him with his fucking behaviour that continuously makes her feel insecure.

Q)Why cant the man assure the woman that there is no call for worries?

Because the man took things for granted, and his ego is too big to assure his wife. He’s arrogant enough to think that his wife will meekly wait for him to return to her every goddamn day, no matter what he did outside. He thinks she is dependent on him, and probably think that she could not go on without him. EGO is the keyword. Little did he know that the wife got pretty fed up  and extremely pissed with him already, and when things gets cold between them, it is just so easy for the wife to talk away. Why bother stay in a marriage with no security and affection anyway?

Q)Why can’t they reconcile when there is really nothing happened?

Because it simply hurt too much to continue on after seeing the man’s unappreciative attitude. Women just want to be assured, loved and secure. Women wants words from her man, and if he cannot appreciate her, assure her, make her feel loved and secured, why bother reconcile? If there’s no children involved, it’s better to cut the mental damage and loss by moving on.

I answered Eugene’s questions according to what I experienced firsthand. I may and not make sense to you, but that’s the answer that came from the bottom of my heart.

Cleffairy: Marriage is made in heaven. But the problem here is, we are here on Earth.


  1. suituapui says:

    Trust is built up between a couple over the years…and if one knows the other truly well, nothing can change that. If there is doubt, then there is no real trust and no real love – one does not know the other well enough! That is why the problems start!

  2. Joanna says:

    Very well said. As much as it takes two to clap, it takes both parties to trust each other and make things work. If there’s mutual trust, and respect I don’t think there would have been a need for this discussion in the first place. As for me, I don’t trust easily, but once I do I don’t really want to waste energy in suspicion. On the other hand, if trust is lost, I never never give it back …

    The thing is, adults should start behaving like adults and use some maturity in their actions and thoughts.

  3. calvin says:

    hmmmmmm….the easy way out is of course stay single…lolz. but i would take one things at a time. i believe marriage is not just to accept love, but also to give love. giving will do so much more in a relationship. communication plays a vital part in a relationship as well. cant do much without the talking.

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